I thought that during maternity leave I would have all the time in the world. I thought of all the projects I would do, walls I would decorate, goodies I would bake, tv shows I would catch up on yadda yadda... boy was I wrong.
Since Norah was born I spend about 30% of my time feeding her, 20% of my time changing diapers and the other 50% just staring at/kissing/snapping pictures of her.
It is all Norah all the time. It is heaven.
The early morning hours are some of my favorite moments with this angel. She is so darling after a good night sleep. Many people have commented on how alert she is for a newborn. She is so much like her mother already, she hates sleeping alone. I slept in my parents bed till I was probably 5 and then shared a room with Ashley till I was 16. When we were kids, we use to go to bed holding hands. Norah won't sleep in her bassinet for long because the moment she opens her eyes and realizes she is alone she has a come apart. So she sleeps in the middle of her daddy and I. Sometimes in the middle of the night I open my eyes and there she is, wide awake just staring at her mama. She is perfect.
The labor and delivery room was so nice and spacious that after a day of being in there, coming to our postpartum recovery room was a little bit of a let down. It was cramped, dark, and a lot less inviting. But I soon came to love that room. It was in that room that we spent our first moments as a little family. It was in that room that Broc and I looked at our little girl in amazement of how gorgeous she was. It was in that room that we gave her the name Norah Mae Hafen. That room was the beginning of the rest of our lives and I actually hated leaving. I wanted to stay in that secluded tight space and keep Norah sheltered from the world for as long as I possibly could. I will always be grateful for the time we spent in that cramped, dark and uninviting space. It was a little bit of heaven.
Friday night (11/09/12) Broc and I made bets as to when the hospital
would call us in to start induction. Our doctor told us that they could call as
early as 5:30 a.m.
Broc’s guess: 7:30 a.m.
My guess: 8:15 a.m.
Actual call: 5:39 a.m. – they don’t mess around
Broc jumped up and took the fastest shower I think I have
ever seen him take (seriously I don’t know what he usually does in there, he
takes the longest showers). I packed the rest of my things for the hospital
while talking to myself “you’re going to have a baby today. Breathe. Today is
the day. Breathe.” I think it was too early for my little pep talk to actually
sink in because it still didn’t seem real by this point.
The drive
to the hospital was a memory I will never forget. The streets were empty while
the city of St. George slept. I don’t remember what was said between Broc and
I, I just remember holding hands, knowing our life was about to change.
Unfortunately that drive only lasted what seemed like 30 sec. before we arrived
at the labor and delivery unit at the hospital. When we got there, the nurses
seemed so excited to see us and it helped that one of them was a girl we knew
from high school. It didn’t take them long to show us our room and hand me a
gown. Before I knew it, Brianne our nurse was writing “Happy Birthday Baby
Girl” on the white board across the room. That is when it started to become
real.
I got
hooked up to an IV and Pitocin around 7:00 a.m. and started filling out birth
certificate paperwork. Baby girl didn’t have a name yet, so we skipped that
part. Unfortunately when they checked my dilation, they told me I was at a 2.
They made sure to warn us that it was going to be a long day. Travis and
Jilynne came at about 8:30 to see how we were doing. I have the best mother and
father-in law out there. They told us that it was sprinkling outside and had
officially turned to autumn. What a perfect day for a baby to be born, on one
of my favorite kind of days. I was secretly a little jealous I couldn’t go out
and feel the crisp air. The in-laws had to run somewhere and shortly after,
around 9:00 my mom and sisters came. Ashley had driven down from Provo the
night before to make it here for the big day. I was so glad to see them. My mom
kept saying “I can’t believe my baby is having a baby!”, I couldn’t believe it
either.
My doctor
was running a 5K that morning so another doctor came in to break my water
around 10:50 a.m. I was a little bit nervous when the nurse handed him what
looked like a crochet hook as long as a chop stick. After fudging around for a
bit he pulled the hook out only to find that there was no hook on the end. He
got it second time around. I think that breaking my water was my least favorite
part of the day. Not because it hurt, but because it felt like I was peeing my
pants for an hour afterward. Gross. They also said that there was some meconium
in the water and that in fear of the baby swallowing some, the NICU nurses
would be in the room when I delivered. They said this is a common thing when
babies are over due. Meanwhile Broc sat by my side the entire time, and my mom
on the couch while we watched Everybody loves Raymond. My contractions were
starting to pick up by this time, a new sensation because I had never felt a
contraction, besides mild Braxton Hicks my entire pregnancy. Katie and her
husband CJ were going to drive down from Provo that day but the roads were too
snowy so we facetimed on the Ipad. It was almost as good as having her there.
I remember
the little looks Broc would give me throughout the day. There aren’t words to
describe them. He was just a sweetheart never leaving my side. At 2:00 my dad,
Ashley, Taylor and Michael came to visit. Michael had just played in his soccer
game and told us he scored two goals for the baby. What a great brother. My dad
seemed at a loss for words when he saw me on that delivery bed. I don’t think
anyone really comprehended until that day that a little angel would be joining
our family.
By this
point we had been there long enough to go through our first shift of nurses.
Shortly after I got a new nurse, Brittney, I asked when I could have my
epidural. The contractions were getting to the point that I could hardly keep
my eyes open during them and Broc’s poor hand was probably loosing circulation
from me squeezing it so hard. The anesthesiologist, Dr. Thomas came in around
2:30. He calmed the whole room down with his chill, nonchalant behavior. I was
most nervous about getting an epidural. While looking for a place to put the
needle, his composed comments started turning into worried ones. He said my
vertebras were unusually close together for my height and that he was having a
hard time putting the needle in. He got it in and I laid down anticipating the
relief of my pain. It never left. I started to feel numb in my toes and from
about my knees down, but nowhere else. At this point, Broc’s grandma and aunts
had arrived and I felt bad to have them see my whimpering during contractions
because the epidural surely did not work. Broc called the nurse in, who called
Dr. Thomas back in. He re-stuck the needle but Broc said he had to stick it
close to 7 times and push with all the force of his body to get it in. Good
thing I wasn’t watching. Relief finally came and it felt oh too good. But it
didn’t last long…
Travis,
Jilynne had come back and my mom had been there all day. It was fun to sit and
chat with our parents. We don’t get a lot of time to do that. Unfortunately by
around 6:00 I was back to feeling everything. I was terrified that there was
nothing else that they could do to fix the epidural. There was no way I could
have this baby natural. No way. Dr. Thomas came back and decided to stick the
needle much higher, warning me that I would be numb from my chest down. By this
point, I liked the sound of that. He also told me that he was having the
pharmacy prepare a stronger dose of medicine for me. Shortly after, it was
smooth sailing. I felt great, and huge as an elephant.
We had made
it to another round of nurses. This time our nurse’s name was Erin. It was
meant to be. She was so great and really made us feel so at home. At 7:15 they
checked and I was dilated to a 5! Woo hoo! Most people dilate to a 5 on their
own at home! This baby did not want to come, that is for sure. The baby’s heart
rate had dropped at this point and they were a bit concerned. Fortunately she’s
a fighter and shortly after, she was right back on track. Meanwhile, we were
keeping our minds preoccupied while watching Family Feud on the game show
channel. I always wanted to be on that show, and after watching it for 2 hours
in the hospital room, I would definitely want my mother in law Jilynne on my
team.
At 9:00 I
was dilated to a 6+ but my temperature had spiked. Erin told me that if my
temperature did not go down in the next hour, the baby would have to be taken
to the NICU for 24 hours after she was born for blood tests and to keep a close
eye on her. I was holding back tears. Something inside of me knew that she was
fine, a healthy baby. I did not like the thought of her being taken away. Broc
didn’t either and started wetting towels to bring my fever down. I asked Broc
for a blessing, but no one had any oil. Fortunately, they keep oil for
blessings in then NICU and one of the nurses was sweet enough to run up there
and get some. I loved that I lived in a town and was delivering in a hospital
where they keep consecrated oil for blessing the sick. Broc offered me a
beautiful blessing. He struggled to hold his tears back, something that doesn’t
happen often. I knew then that he was going to be an amazing dad. He already
loved his daughter so much.
When the
nurse came back at 10:00 she was happy to see that my temperature had dropped
back to normal. I was elated and so thankful for the power of the Priesthood
that my husband holds. She followed with the good news that I was dilated to a
9! It wasn’t until 12:15 that I started
pushing. All along I had said that I just wanted Broc in the room when I delivered,
but when it came down to it, I couldn’t imagine my mom not being there. When
the nurses asked if I wanted anyone else in the room, Broc said “do you want
your mom?” and from behind the curtain I heard Broc’s mom Jilynne yell, “let
her in!”. When my mom came around the curtain, she had tears in her eyes, so
excited to witness a miracle (of course I made her stand behind my head).
Trying to
push a baby out is a funny thing when you are numb from the chest down. The
nurses told me to breathe in and then hold my breath and push for ten seconds
at a time. Some of my favorite memories of Broc will be during these moments.
He was amazing, holding my left leg and saying things like “you got it babe!”
and “PUSH!! You are doing amazing”. I could tell how excited he was for our
lives to change for the better and how proud he was of me, sometimes a girl
needs a little reminder of that from the men in her life. When the nurse said
“I see a full head of hair!” I had a sigh of relief. I knew I would love my
baby girl no matter what, I just knew it would be such a bonus if she had cute
hair. She invited Broc to look and for a second he declined in fear of passing
out. When he finally decided to look, his face lit up. All he could say now was
“OH MY GOSH! She is so close!!” After about 45 minutes of pushing, Doctor Clark
came in and took over, when he started getting his robe and gloves on, I knew
it wouldn’t be too much longer. He too was so encouraging and kept telling me
how great I was doing. Broc had to keep giving me sips of water in between
pushes because it is dang tiring!
After
another 45 minutes, at 1:29 a.m. Dr. Clark put a beautiful baby girl on my
chest. I could hardly organize my thoughts at this point, a miracle had just occurred
and a new little spirit was born. The room was spinning and the only thing I
could concentrate on was her little hand holding my finger while my husband
kissed my forehead.
I realized then that I had known this little girl all along, she was always a part of our family. She was gorgeous. Life had been good to Broc and I, but it had suddenly gotten so much better.
I have officially reached my due date and I am still pregnant.
That is definitely not something I wanted to have happen.
Every day that goes by seems like an eternity.
For a while, I'll admit, I wanted her to come because I was just done with being pregnant. I was uncomfortable, fat and sick of being winded after walking up a flight of stairs.
Now, I want her to come for all of those reasons,
but the excitement of finally meeting our little angel is almost overbearing at times.
I cannot wait to see her face, hear her cute cry, touch those little feet that my ribs have gotten so well acquainted with. I cannot wait to hold her in my arms and not in my stomach. I can't wait to see her tiny nose that I fell in love with in our ultrasound. And I cannot wait to see Broc's face when he sees his daughter.
Broc doesn't express too much excitement for things, but to see how anxious he is for her to come is perfectly endearing. I can already see the hold she has on his heart. I can't even count how many times throughout the day that he says things like "think baby thoughts" and "how is your stomach? Anything? Anything that could even resemble a contraction??". He whispers to my stomach quite often too telling her that her time is officially up.
At least we know for sure that by this time next week, she will be with us. The doctor will induce me 11/10 if she doesn't come by then. Ready or not, she is coming. And we could not be more excited!
We have been so focused on this baby coming and whether or not she would be here before halloween, that it came before we knew it.
Unfortunately Broc had a class that night and missed most of the festivities, but here are some of the pictures of the awesome costumes that gma wade provided this year.
Sonny and Cher
She is a weeping willow
Cher and Elvis
The Fam
minus Broc and Ashley :(
The fat baker, tourist and weeping willow
My grandpa is always a younger, hairier version of himself.
I love him!
